We learn to care for ourselves in the safety of our home during our childhood. The first and most significant relationship is the relationship we have with our mother. This is one of the relationships that distinguishes our manner of self-care later in life. Thus, our development also depends on the conduct of our mother. However, according to Astrology, we evoke a certain part of our socialization ourselves by communicating our basic needs. In general, everyone has the same basic needs, but they differ in significance – depending on the Moon Sign. A Cancer Moon, for example, will need much more emotional support than an Aquarius Moon.
If our parents take our needs seriously and fulfill them, our energy develops constructively – despite difficult aspects in the birth chart. When they don’t fulfill, but rather neglect them, our fundamental energy develops destructively – despite harmonious aspects in our charts. Then, we acquire survival strategies as compensation mechanisms for the lack of self. These survival strategies only take us further away from ourselves and leave behind our crippled, neglected inner child – lost somewhere inside of us with enormous destructive powers, IF we don’t care for ourselves.
Basic needs of every human being:
- commitment (especially Taurus, Cancer, Virgo, Scorpio, Capricorn, and Pisces)
- a sense of emotional security and comfort (especially Earth and Water Signs)
- autonomy (especially Aries, Gemini, Leo, Sagittarius, and Aquarius)
- control (especially Aries, Virgo, Scorpio, and Capricorn)
- orientation (especially Gemini, Virgo, Libra, and Pisces)
- appreciation (especially Leo, Virgo, Libra, and Capricorn)
- pleasure gain (especially, Taurus, Leo, Libra, and Sagittarius)
- avoidance of displeasure (especially Taurus, Gemini, Leo, Libra, and Pisces)
In order of finding the balance as a parent, we have to listen to the needs our children communicate – while not neglecting needs they don’t communicate. The most important is consistency. A lack of consistency strengthens destructive conduct intermittently and makes the child feel helpless and powerless. Consequently, the child acquires compensation mechanisms in order of survival.